Thursday, January 17, 2008

That's What Friends Are For

I've been thinking a lot about friendship lately. I found out last week that one of my closest girlfriends is moving 5 hours away. I always knew that it was a possiblity, but I was completely unprepared for the heartbreak of having it come true. I never had thought of the magnitude of what her absence in my daily life would mean. It sucks. Her leaving in a few short months is now the backdrop for every phone call, every lunch date, every time we see each other in carpool line. Did I mention it sucks? Then there's the heartbreak of not just my own friendship, but my children's. The President cried and said, "He can't go...he's my BEST FRIEND!!!!!" I can't really tell him that it doesn't suck...because it does.

I am actually quite experienced in the long-distance friendship thing. I met my best friend in the 9th grade, when she moved to the small town where I had lived all my life. Our houses were a short walk or bike ride apart, and we became inseperable almost immediately. At the end of that year, her family had to move again with her dad's job. To another state. It sucked. We stayed in touch and wrote, called, and visited each other. Over the years (more than 20!) we have actually grown closer, and now talk several times a week, and see each other a couple of times a year. I've been thinking about friendship because next Friday, she is coming here for a visit with no husband and no children (she has four)! My Baby's Daddy will be on the clock so that I can have a break & act like a teenager again. On Friday night, she will get to meet all my local girlfriends as we start our Bunco group back up after a year's hiatus.

All these old friends, leaving friends, wonderful, fun and much-needed friends on my mind, and then I got this:

Janet is someone I would definitely call a friend. Even though many miles separate us, our paths crossed through our blogs. We don't e-mail or talk every day or even once a month. We've never met in person. But she is my friend. She showed caring and support during one of the darkest times of my life. I just knew she was there, and was pulling for me. I've not been posting very regularly lately, but almost every time I can count on a comment from her. (She unfortunately can't say the same of me....) She's my friend, and she gave me this cool award.

Okay, that's enough! I'm the goofy and (sometimes hopefully) funny Southern Friend Mom. I talk about my sassy kids & my neurotic tendencies....this is getting way too mushy for my comfort zone. Go give your friend a hug!



At 8:44 AM, Anonymous ~JJ! said...

Love you.

At 11:27 AM, Blogger Queen of the Mayhem said...

Losing the closeness of a friend is always hard...something tells me you won't have any trouble finding a new one!

Have fun acting like a kid again! Don't do anything I wouldn't it's WIDE OPEN! :)

At 2:43 PM, Blogger Worker Mommy said...

I would be the exact same way given the situation. You're entitled.
Thank goodness for the internet now though...even though she's 5 hours away , there is IM and email and other things to make her seem closer.
(but yeah I know nothing like the real thing right)
Enjoy your night out.

At 6:34 PM, Blogger Ann(ie) said...

I so understand. So many close friends of mine have up and moved and with the internet we keep in pretty good touch, but it's still not the same.
Enjoy your night, sugar. I don't know what I'd do in life without my best girly friends. And then there's some I'd like to request move further away. *sigh* I'm never happy! ;)



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